There is no getting away from it, society in this day and age is so very visual and often success and popularity are based on a person conforming to the ideal of the time. How often have we seen pictures of a celebrity pre fame and it held up to ridicule or criticism since they were not the of the conventialist ilk. We admire them, emulate them and ultimately aspire to be them, at least this is how we are supposed to be but small few are not. I think perhaps this may place me firmly in the category of the unconventional for i most definitely do not wish to conform to societies ideal and its predilection for the super skinny, the over tanned and the overly cosmeticized.
The ironic thing is that for the most part those most attractive of all are those so unassuming and totally aware of their own attraction. One would assume that beauty is something visual and tangible but more often it is some indefinable quality that can render those of lesser visual aesthetics to be infinitely more alluring simply from some inner quality that those others do not possess. For myself i have never had aspirations to conform to societies ideal and whilst i may seek to improve upon my appearance for my own self image i should not wish to be anything other than what i am. Whilst this may render me less attractive in the eyes of the world nonetheless it has no influence on my choices.
Perhaps i am unusual in that often in the past those persons to whom i ultimately became attracted were not those who had instant visual appeal but became so much more appealing in my eyes on knowing them. That is not to say i am immune to the appeal of an attractive man, of course i am not but couple this with an inner beauty and they become so much more than those counterparts who may be of an even more aesthetically pleasing variety but without the substance within. Whilst there will always be those who care little for content and will be satisfied with looks alone there a those who will always search for more depth than this.
Sometimes you just have to ignore the crowd, being a sheep may make you fit in but it does not make you stand out. Admittedly you may not receive the adulation of the many, you are not after all ideal but you will receive the adulation of the ones who matter. I know some beautiful people, they may not be beautiful to you but then in this i am fortunate, for i know them.