A Reason To Be Missed


Last night fighting sleep i was doing my usual channel hopping on the tv. I get this way quite often being really to tired to watch anything in particular but reluctant to actually turn it off but this time a programme caught my eye and i found myself watching avidly.

Truth be told it was actually a rather sad and upsetting programme and ordinarily i would have switched channels and avoided it but i found the people within it really captured me and kept me there long after i would have left and opted for sleep. The programme itself was about people who die alone and who are never discovered for quite some time and i watched in shocked disbelief as the varying tales unfolded. A 58 year old man was discovered last year after lying dead in his flat for two years, forgotten and unmissed by anyone. I’m a soft hearted soul anyway but this upset me greatly, how sad that this gentleman had been in a position where he had passed on and yet nobody noticed. How? 

Where were his friends?? Where were his family??

It seems he had neither, being rather reclusive in nature and this in itself is the saddest thing of all. I am sure i am far from alone in hoping that when my time comes i will leave behind people who will miss me,notice that i am gone and that i have in some way touched at least one person in such a way as to cause them to mourn my loss. I should feel i had lived my life very badly indeed if this were not the case. 

Worse still the story of an elderly lady who had lain dead in her flat for 5 years before anyone discovered her. 5 years!!! Who was this poor lady and why was she so alone? What on earth had caused her to come to such a tragic end? It seems nobody knew, neither the lady herself or anything about her. How horrific that a person can just vanish from the face of the earth and be unnoticed by a single living soul. How lonely an existence this must have been and my heart went firmly out to her yet i cannot imagine what it must be like to be so lonely and so forgotten. Perhaps though it is easier than we think to end up this way and she herself had never envisaged such an end to her life.

Still the tales came, some left for days, others for much longer periods of time and it seems it is far from a rare occurrence. So many people, all forgotten. One would imagine that this was limited to the poor and the elderly yet this was not so. People of all ages, sexes and both rich and poor all with the same tragic ending. I wonder if the blame lies with society itself for the less than community spirit that exists in this modern day world of ours or if ultimately the people themselves were at fault, dooming themselves in their very rejection of fellow human beings. This we shall never know but it definitely gives cause for thought and has altered my thinking rather a lot. My jest has always been that i should end my days being a crazy cat lady in a remote cottage in Wales but suddenly this does not seem such an ideal to aspire to. Perhaps a more fitting end of days should be my choice for i do not wish to be yet another statistic on the forgotten people list.

Time to be thankful then and hold on to those people who will notice if i am no longer here and work upon leaving behind me a reason to be missed. 

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5 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. smilingtoad
    Aug 26, 2012 @ 16:03:44

    Powerful entry, aye indeed, provides much to marinate upon and think about…very doleful and tragic indeed- inspiring write, however. Well done!

    Reply

    • smilesalot1969
      Aug 26, 2012 @ 17:12:01

      thankyou 🙂 it really does make you think!!

      Reply

      • smilingtoad
        Aug 26, 2012 @ 17:22:31

        It does indeed. Reminds me of a Simon and Garfunkel song as well. “A Most Peculiar Man” When I’d first heard that song, I was near tears, gripped with such emotion, just lost in the meaning of that song and the life of that reclusive man, and his lonely suicide, very doleful indeed. Thank you for sharing this, much to ponder, indeed.

      • smilesalot1969
        Aug 26, 2012 @ 17:29:22

        such a sad song i know it. You are most welcome i have the oddest moments of totally random musings but it really changed my mind!! No more cat lady for me!!

      • smilingtoad
        Aug 26, 2012 @ 18:00:56

        I know what you mean about the romance of the idea of being the “cat lady”, and this definately dispells that notion. Mine was more “mountain lass”. Always wanted to recede into the mountains somewhere remote and alone.There may be a romance in that idea, but there is incredible sadness in it as well. The “nutty scientist lady” is probably more what will happen, “nutter with the sharks” making silly documentaries. I adore the sea. Cheers to you. I adore your blog. Looking forward to future writes.

        -Autumn Jade

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