In the eye of the beholder

We all have our own ideas about that which we consider to be beautiful. That we will all differ in our opinions is a fact but one cannot fail to deny the existence of certain trends that many adhere to in order to perceive ourselves as such. One of the most comical of these in our modern times is the existence of the well known ‘Duck Face’ seen adorning profiles the internet over and considered by those young and aspiring beauties to be the ultimate in appeal. Most amusing of all is the total oblivion to the ridicule this overly exaggerated pose receives and blithely they continue to grimace and gurn in a parody of attractiveness.

Recently dear daughter number 2 and i were discussing the phenomena that is the ‘Duck Face’ and i was more than a little horrified when she related a story to me, showing me a photo to describe the tale. Some days earlier she and a friend had been posing for photographs when the other girls 2 year old sister had wished to be pictured with them. Upon crowding together to take a shot this small child had automatically assumed the potentially provocative ‘Duck Face’ pose and was captured in the shot this way. Now to the child this was merely innocent copying of things that she had seen but i was rather concerned at so one so young falling so naturally into a pose that aimed to be sexy.

Dear daughter also showed me two photographs from a well known networking site. One, a picture of an overly made up teen in an overtly sexy pose with requisite ‘duck Face’ pout had received thousands of ‘likes’ from viewers. The second, of an extremely pretty teenager with a show stopping smile and normal amount of make up had received….3 ‘likes’. Clearly it seems that although this second teen was very genuinely beautiful   she was not the ideal of the time which is the overtly sexy pouty kind. I personally fail to see why pretty young girls would wish to make themselves look as though they had been around the block more times than a New York postman but i guess there is no accounting for the influences of media and society. I freely confess i have the greatest fun doing an amusing send up of the ‘Duck Face’ but should i ever resort to doing impressions of a trout in order to look sexy then please dear readers feel free to have me committed to the local asylum. One can only hope that society will soon make a return to genuine beauty and allow the young to remain so and rely more on other qualities to be popular. 

After all the only thing that should look like a duck…is a duck!!

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A question of beauty

There is no getting away from it, society in this day and age is so very visual and often success and popularity are based on a person conforming to the ideal of the time. How often have we seen pictures of a celebrity pre fame and it held up to ridicule or criticism since they were not the of the conventialist ilk. We admire them, emulate them and ultimately aspire to be them, at least this is how we are supposed to be but small few are not. I think perhaps this may place me firmly in the category of the unconventional for i most definitely do not wish to conform to societies ideal and its predilection for the super skinny, the over tanned and the overly cosmeticized. 

The ironic thing is that for the most part those most attractive of all are those so unassuming and totally aware of their own attraction. One would assume that beauty is something visual and tangible but more often it is some indefinable quality that can render those of lesser visual aesthetics to be infinitely more alluring simply from some inner quality that those others do not possess. For myself i have never had aspirations to conform to societies ideal and whilst i may seek to improve upon my appearance for my own self image i should not wish to be anything other than what i am. Whilst this may render me less attractive in the eyes of the world nonetheless it has no influence on my choices. 

Perhaps i am unusual in that often in the past those persons to whom i ultimately became attracted were not those who had instant visual appeal but became so much more appealing in my eyes on knowing them. That is not to say i am immune to the appeal of an attractive man, of course i am not but couple this with an inner beauty and they become so much more than those counterparts who may be of an even more aesthetically pleasing variety but without the substance within. Whilst there will always be those who care little for content and will be satisfied with looks alone there a those who will always search for more depth than this. 

Sometimes you just have to ignore the crowd, being a sheep may make you fit in but it does not make you stand out. Admittedly you may not receive the adulation of the many, you are not after all ideal but you will receive the adulation of the ones who matter. I know some beautiful people, they may not be beautiful to you but then in this i am fortunate, for i know them.